SHYNESS AND SELF ESTEEM

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In general, we can say that a shy person will be uncomfortable in social situations and tries to avoid
them or, if not possible, go unnoticed. The cause of this behavior is the feeling of inferiority and low self-esteem that shy people feel. When afraid to do or say something that may cause rejection by others,
they prefer to avoid exposure to these potential criticisms, remaining silent and inactive and staying out.
Lack of self confidence is the basis of shyness. There are many techniques that can help us improve:
anxiety control techniques, improved self-esteem, better social skills, emotional control, assertiveness.

AT WORK

Choose the most direct way you can communicate: Try to answer emails and telephone conversations
with telephone face to face conversations whenever possible. Think of people in your work environment
with which the relationship has cooled down and renew that relationship. You can try to coincide with
them at coffee breaks or meet with them to discuss any work related matters. Act naturally and
informally, talking to that person even if only to find out how he/she is.
Attend social events organized by the company and try to socialize, get new contacts and enhance your
relationships.
Join in activities that require you to talk and give your opinion in front of others (writing workshops,
book clubs, focus groups ...).

ACTIVITIES

Creative activities: Browse within your qualities which creative activity you could practice. Maybe you
like to draw, write, dance or sing, act ... Practicing any of these activities will allow you to integrate into
a group, and training qualities that you can be proud of.
Sign up for classes: Surely there is a topic that interests you and you would like to learn more about.
Most importantly; you will meet new people.
Join a gym: Apart from improving your physique, which increases your self esteem, regular exercise
helps to reduce anxiety.
Walk: If the gym is too much for you, walking every day will also help. It will help you feel more active,
reduces anxiety and protects you from depression.
Hobbies: Find and pratice any activity that allows you to develop your skills, have fun and meet people
that share your hobby.

TECHNICAL

• Know your shyness: Each shyness case is unique and therefore you need to understand yours. It
analyze in which situations it manifests, what physical symptoms you notice, what thoughts come to
your mind...
• Make a list of the qualities that make you feel shy and strategies that could help you overcome each
one. For example, if you discover that you're embarrassed to talk to girls because you have not had
much contact with them, find someone in your class or work that seems accessible and begin with
greeting her and try to hold a conversation.
• Recognize that the world is not looking at you: People are not watching you, waiting to see if you're
make a mistake or blush to make fun of you or to reject you
• Analyze people and situations that make you feel comfortable: Find the common characteristics of
those people and situations and you will find out many new things about yourself. When you realize
these things, maybe you can stop torturing yourself for not fitting in situations where you do not really
want to be.
• Keep a journal: If you start making changes, note the techniques you use every day, what results you
had, how you felt, what thoughts came to mind ... It will help you to realize the points that you should
keep working on and to evaluate your improvement and motivate you.

SELF ESTEEM

• See the others as normal human beings and do not idealize the people around you. They are people
like you, with their qualities and flaws, with their manias and fears.
• Remember that others are shy too. Think that it's possible that the person you are having a
conversation with is as nervous as you and notice how your anxiety reduces.
• Find your strengths and qualities: Make a list of all your positive qualities and try to keep them in mind
when it comes to value yourself.
• Appreciate yourself: You must learn to value yourself and accept yourself, see yourself positively.
You're a unique and special human being, with many positive qualities to offer to the world but you
cannot show them if you are not aware of them.
• Do not have to be like everyone else: Do not try to be like everyone else just to fit in artificially. It's
good to be different.
• Accept Rejection: It's something that happens to everyone. Try not to dramatize and make a big deal
of it.
• Abandon the ideas of perfectionism: We all make mistakes and we should see them as a learning
experience for the future.
• Do not label yourself: Do not label yourself as shy and think that you cannot do anything about it
because "that’s how you are."
• Think about the accomplishments you have achieved and remember these to improve your self-esteem.
• Give importance to your needs :. You have the right to ask for what you want and to be listened to.
Start by recognizing your needs and then practice with nearby people.

TECHNICAL

• Press your limits gradually: You can start by greeting ten people a day, after that having a conversation
with someone new every day...
• Make an effort to find new friends. Frequent new environments, try to improve the relationship with
your acquaintances, find new people ...
• Relax with breathing exercises.
• Relax with physical exercises.
• Visualisation: This is to imagine yourself in a social situation that you find threatening. In this scenario
try to imagine yourself relaxed and functioning normally, trying to focus on all the details to make the
image as realistic as possible. This will reduce your anxiety when you have to face the situation as it
works as pratice.
• Repeat positive thoughts: You must get used to repeating thoughts about your qualities and your
possibilities of success.
• Do not abandon uncomfortable situations: you must endure because anxiety is like a wave: it rises up
to a maximum and then decreases naturally. If you can hold, you'll see the maximum anxiety you feel
reducing and disappearing in many situations.
• Practice social skills: You can start with familiar people around you. There are many skills to practice
(say hello, start a conversation, ask a favor, thank someone, apologize...)

CONVERSATION TECHNIQUES

• Ask open-ended questions: Do not ask questions that can be answered with a yes or a no. "What do
you think about ...?" Or "What do you know about ...?". Peoplelike to give their opinion and you will
manage to make people speak instead of focusing on your anxiety, enabling you to relax.
• Laugh freely: You should not feel embarrassed to laugh if a situation or comment are funny to you.
• Focus attention on the other person: Use more "you" and less "me" and you will make the other
person become the center of conversation.
• Focus attention on the moment: Focus on the situation you're living in at the present moment. Do you
get distracted thinking about past failures or what will happen in the future.
• Accept compliments: Do not be ashamed when someone says something good.
• Compliment others: People like others to tell them positive things.
• Surround yourself with positive people: Being with people who criticize and only see the negative will
not improve your self esteem and help you overcome shyness.
• Nonverbal communication: Remember to maintain eye contact. Remember to smile naturally.

TECHNIQUES FOR FITTING IN

• Eye contact: You have to try to maintain eye contact with the person speaking to you. The other
person may interpret you not maintaining eye contact as you being bored or lack of attention. Look at
the other persons face, shifting focus to the eyes occasionally and combine this with other gestures of
affirmation, questions on the subject and smile.
• Smile: A natural and sincere smile is the best way to get the other person to open up to you. You will
give the impression of being an open person.
• Keep your attention on the other person: Instead of focusing on your thoughts and if you're doing
right or wrong, try to pay attention to what the other person is saying and try to be comfortable.

GROUPS

• Find someone you already know or that you find unthreatening and join that person. You cease to be
isolated and you stop thinking that you are alone against the group or that the others are watching you.
• Do not push yourself too hard: Nobody is expecting you to be the soul of the meeting, so spend the
first few minutes to relax and greet people, without forcing anything else.
• Leverage your strengths: If at any time the conversation is routed to a topic you master, try to make a
short speech. Try to be spontaneous and not thinking about whether it is adequate to speak or not, or
what others think.
• Do not see groups in general as something to large for you. A group consists of individuals like you. If
you talk, focus your eyes on a person that inspires confidence in you and maintain eye contact, until you
feel confident enough to look at the rest of the group.
• Try to be positive: You can use relaxation or visualization techniques to address these situations with
greater confidence and optimism.

Silvia Asencio
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